I made one resolution at the beginning of 2016. It was to stay better connected to the people that matter. That meant returning phone calls more promptly, reaching out to people I hadn’t spoken to in a while, writing real letters, etc. I wanted to include a goal of seeing people face-to-face, but the blessing and a curse of my peripatetic adulthood is that my friends and family are scattered far and wide and so it wouldn’t be financially practical to go see all of them. So I chose one friend, C, knowing that a) it had been at least two years since I had seen him and b) he might not stay in Colorado forever, making him harder to visit!
And then something amazing happened – I got to see A LOT of people face-to-face this year. I got to meet new partners and family members and visit new places and catch up and witness growth and change in people’s lives. Here’s a rundown of my 2016 New Year’s Resolution:
January: The Munchkat, Slim and Cirque Roots. A and I planned a trip down to San Diego for the AcroLove festival. Since we were down there, we flew into LA and saw my friend Slim, whom I know from my time in Japan. I spent NYE with my sister and then saw the girls from Cirque Roots down at AcroLove. I even got in a bonus visit with someone that I hadn’t seen since childhood, whom I essentially grew up with!
June: 10-year College Reunion, plus K. I haven’t been to a single reunion for any school I’ve ever been to. I don’t see the point and it’s not my cup of tea. But then Lewis & Clark reminded me that it’s been 10 years since I graduated and I thought it would be a good opportunity to see my friends who still live in Portland since it is only an 8-hour drive away. I also got to see K, one of my good friends from OIMB.
July: C. Hung out with him and his wife down in Denver, experienced my first escape room! Learned never to fly Frontier.
August: Dad, AJ/UL. Dad came to visit me in the beginning of the month and we did stuff like Glacier, the internment camp at Fort Missoula, and tried fishing in the Blackfoot. He even helped me fix up a bike. AJ and UL came later in the month and they got to see the Acro Flash Mob and enjoy all the food and drink Missoula has to offer.
October: R, Lill. I saw R while I was cramming in my CEUs at UW in Seattle, and finally got to meet his baby daughter. Then, on her quest to visit all 50 states and visit all the National Parks, Lill ventured out West again and I met up with her in Yellowstone. We were happy/sad that we didn’t see a bear.
December: Obachan and Family, Linds, C, Yale Friends, J. It’s been almost two years since I’ve been back to the Bay Area. I specifically planned this trip to see my elderly grandmother since she’s not able to travel that much anymore. She had a mini stroke (doing well) a few days before I arrived and so I saw her in the rehab facility with my Dad, aunt and uncle. I stayed in Oakland with Linds in her new house and got to see how much her son had grown and how she continues to grow as a parent. I saw some friends from Yale and was reminded of how important it is to have peers in your profession. I almost missed J, but we managed to make it work and it both frightens and amazes me that we have known each other for close to 30 years. I saw C, a friend from my doula days and even got to see M & A and their son again since they were visiting M’s family in the Bay Area!
I feel really blessed and grateful to not only have these people in my life, but to have gotten to see them all this year (some of them twice!). There are still people that I didn’t get to see, but I hope that 2017 will continue the trend of 2016.